HOW TO THRIVE OUTSIDE OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE…
STEP #1: GET CLEAR ON WHAT YOU WANT – QUIET YOUR MIND… LISTEN TO THE WHISPER OF YOUR HEART
BURN THE BOATS – YOU HAVE NO CHOICE!
STEP#3: START MOVING FORWARD…TAKE ACTION
THE MAGIC HAPPENS IN THE “DOING” NOT THE “THINKING ABOUT THE DOING!”
Take the step, make the move, put yourself out there…what is the worse that can happen? Yes… you might make a mistake AND it could be embarrassing AND you might fail… BUT so what? You’ll survive, you will grow as a person and you will be that much closer to who you want to me in this life. It’s worth it!
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Behavior is contagious. Laughing, yawning, pregnancies, and divorces have all been proven to be. It starts with one and it catches on until it becomes the new norm. The truth is your environment and who you surround yourself with influences you. Move to Marin and you can be sure that sooner rather than later you will be tri-athaloning and eating kale, turnip and rutabaga.
The “Power of She” starts with the Power of One. Trends, behaviors, changes, and movements start with one person using their voice and actions to influence those around them. Our community, each of us coming to Speak to Me each month, thinking about bettering ourselves and our world, making infinitesimal changes, does make a difference. If one couple has their wedding registry through Universal Giving rather than Macy’s maybe others will? If 200 women wake up Wednesday morning and go out into the world, a little more purposeful, a little more grateful, thinking about how to create a meaningful story of their lives, that in turn effects countless others. Our networks are deep and so is our potential influence.
The elephant in the room however, is sometimes we don’t ignite each other’s fire. Sometimes we set fire to each other. The truth is, women are hard on other women. Calling back to the February Speak To Me, Debora Spar spoke about how we shouldn’t be so hard on ourselves. Give some things up and learn to say no to others. Maybe if we individually made an effort to give ourselves a break we in turn might be easier on each other. Why? Because behavior is contagious and when women truly unite, there is nothing more powerful.
Here are some of our favorite insights from our “Power of She” evening:
• What do women want? On the ground studies show that around the globe we all want the same things: social and economic justice, a sustainable environment, health, education, and peace. But more importantly, women have the energy, ingenuity, and commitment to affect real change in their families and communities and in the world over and over again.
• Creativity and Commitment can change the world. Choose what you want to do and do it (not perfectly mind you) but good enough. Your actions will be seen and heard, they will affect others and ignite them to begin their own journey or join yours. Change, real change is always started with one person and one idea. Why can’t it be you? It should be you!
• Gratitude is the key to happiness. Ours are luxury problems…take advantage of the immense opportunities and choices we have available to us for there are women throughout the world who don’t and never will have such opportunities.
• Don’t underestimate the power of one woman and the brute force of a woman collective. Women’s hearts are bigger and our spirits brighter then we think; in the face of adversity we seek out justice, equality and dignity for those suffering and will not stop until these goals have been achieved. Women find the strength, the perseverance and the means to make it better. Always!
• Everyone has a story and a ladder to climb. Find your story and follow your heart to make the difference you want to make. And remember service is not just at the volunteer job…there are many opportunities to serve along the way. Smile at the checker, teach a greener colleague a new skill or help your elderly neighbor bring in her trash barrels. Serving doesn’t have to take place 5,000 miles from your home, it can happen everyday right in your own backyard. We are in service to each other every day.
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* Abolish the saying “have it all” from the vernacular: No one can be the perfect mom, employee, community member etc. So stop killing yourself trying to be the quintessential everything!
* Recalibrate your expectations: Aspire to be CEO? Then stop trying to be at EVERY game, run the PTA, church group and Girl Scouts all at the same time. You can do bits of each, yes, but stop the perfection quest for all; take off your superwoman mask before it falls off in your exhaustion.
* Bring men into the conversation: Things won’t change if men are left in the dark. Let them know what we are up against, bring them into the fold, demand help or at least understanding of what’s on our plate.
* Stand United: Collectively decide to take it down a notch. Stop the judgments and start the support of the choices we are each making that feel right for us.